whoever loved that loved not at the first sight

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whoever loved that loved not at the first sight — Sun, 28 Sep 2008 15:15:39 +0800

Twenty years ago, I drove a cab for a living. It was a cowboy’s life, a life for someone who wanted no boss.
What I did not realize was that it was also a ministry. Because I drove the night shift, my cab became a moving confessional. Passengers climbed in, sat behind me in total anonymity, and told me about their lives. I encountered people whose lives amazed me, ennobled me, made me laugh and weep.
But none touched me more than a woman I picked up late one August night.
I was responding to a call from a small brick fourplex in a quiet part of town. I assumed I was being sent to pick up some people who had been partying, or someone who had just had a fight with a lover, or a worker heading to an early shift at some factory for the industrial part of town.
When I arrived at 2:30 a.m., the building was dark except for a single light in a ground floor window. Under such circumstances, many drivers just honk once or twice, wait a minute, then drive away. But I had seen too many impoverished people who depended on taxis as their only means of transpor- tation.
Unless a situation smelled of danger, I always went to the door.
This passenger might be someone who needs my assistance, I reasoned to myself. So I walked to the door and knocked. “Just a minute,” answered a frail, elderly voice. I could hear something being dragged across the floor. After a long pause, the door opened. A small woman in her 80s stood before me. She was wearing a print dress and a pillbox hat with a veil pinned on it, like somebody out of a 1940s movie. By her side was a small nylon suitcase.
The apartment looked as if no one had lived in it for years. All the furniture was covered with sheets. There were no clocks on the walls, no knickknacks or utensils on the counters. In the corner was a cardboard box filled with photos and glassware.
“Would you carry my bag out to the car?” she said. I took the suitcase to the cab, then returned to assist the woman. She took my arm, and we walked slowly toward the curb.
She kept thanking me for my kindness. “It’s nothing,” I told her. “I just try to treat my passengers the way I would want my mother treated.” “Oh, you’re such a good boy,” she said.
When we got in the cab, she gave me an address, then asked, “Can you drive through downtown?” “It’s not the shortest way,” I answered quickly. “Oh, I don’t mind,” she said. “I’m in no hurry. I’m on my way to a hospice.” I looked in the rearview mirror. Her eyes were glistening. “I don’t have any family left,” she continued. “The doctor says I don’t have very long.”
I quietly reached over and shut off the meter. “What route would you like me to take?” I asked.
For the next two hours, we drove through the city. She showed me the building where she had once worked as an elevator operator. We drove through the neighborhood where she and her husband had lived when they were newlyweds. She had me pull up in front of a furniture warehouse that had once been a ballroom where she had gone dancing as a girl.
Sometimes she’d ask me to slow in front of a particular building or corner and would sit staring into the darkness, saying nothing.
As the first hint of sun was creasing the horizon, she suddenly said, “I’m tired. Let’s go now.”
We drove in silence to the address she had given me.
It was a low building, like a small convalescent home, with a driveway that passed under a portico. Two orderlies came out to the cab as soon as we pulled up. They were solicitous and intent, watching her every move. They must have been expecting her.
I opened the trunk and took the small suitcase to the door. The woman was already seated in a wheelchair.
“How much do I owe you?” she asked, reaching into her purse.
“Nothing,” I said.
“You have to make a living,” she answered.
“There are other passengers,” I responded.
Almost without thinking, I bent and gave her a hug. She held onto me tightly.
“You gave an old woman a little moment of joy,” she said. “Thank you.”
I squeezed her hand, then walked into the dim morning light. Behind me, a door shut. It was the sound of the closing of a life.
I didn’t pick up any more passengers that shift. I drove aimlessly, lost in thought. For the rest of that day, I could hardly talk.
What if that woman had gotten an angry driver, or one who was impatient to end his shift? What if I had refused to take the run, or had honked once, then driven away?
On a quick review, I don’t think that I have done anything more important in my life.
We’re conditioned to think that our lives revolve around great moments. But great moments often catch us unaware - beautifully wrapped in what others may consider a small one. People may not remember exactly what you did, or what you said... but they will always remember how you made them feel.
Take a moment to stop and appre- ciate the memories you have made, the memory making opportunies around you and make someone feel special today.

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二十年前，我以开出租车为生。这是一种富有冒险精神的生活，适合那些不想受老板管制的人。
开始我没有意识到它也是一种牧师职业。由于我上夜班，我的出租车就成为一辆流动的忏悔室。乘客们爬进车里，坐在我后面，素不相识，然后给我讲述他们的生活。我遇到过很多人，有些人的生活让我感到惊奇，有些人的生活让我肃然起敬，有些人带给我欢笑和哭泣。
然而最使我感动的，是在八月的一个晚上乘车的一位老妇人。
我正在接电话，是从一座砖造的四套公寓住宅小楼打来的，位于城镇一个安静的区域。我想可能是我让去那里接一些参加舞会的人，或者刚与爱人打过架的人，或者要去城镇工业区的某个工厂赶早班的工人。
凌晨两点半我赶到的时候，楼里除了第一层窗户那儿亮着一盏孤灯外，漆黑一片。在这种情况下，很多司机都是按一两下喇叭，等一会儿，然而就开车离开了。但我见过太多穷困的人们，他们把出租车作为唯一的交通工具。
除非嗅到危险的气氛，我总是走到门前。
乘客也许需要我的帮助，我这样为自己找理由。因此我走到门前，敲门。“请等一下。”回答的是一个虚弱而苍老的声音。我能听到在地板上拖着东西的声音，过了好一会，门开了。一位80多岁的弱小老妇人站在我面前。她穿着印花外套，戴着别有面纱的筒状女帽，就像从四十年代的电影里走出来的人。她身旁是一个小型的尼龙手提箱。
这座公寓看上去好像很多年没人住过了，所有的家具都用布蒙着，墙上没有挂钟，柜台上也没有任何装饰物或家用器具。墙角放着一个纸箱，里面堆满了照片和玻璃器皿。
“你能帮我把包拿到车上吗？”她说。我把箱子放到车上，又回来搀扶老妇人。她挽住我的胳膊，我们慢慢走到车旁。
她不停地感谢我的好心。“没什么，”我说，“我想要别人这样对待我的母亲，我就得尽力这样对待我的乘客。”“哦，你真是个好孩子。”她说。
当我们坐进车里，她递给我一个地址，然后又问道：“你能从城镇中心穿过去吗？”“那不是最近的路。”我很快回答。“哦，没关系，”她说，“我不急着赶路，我就要去救济院了。” 我从后视镜看了看，她的眼睛在闪着光。她继续说着：“我没有任何家人了，医生说我活不长了。”
我轻轻地伸手关掉了计量表。“您想让我走哪条路线？”我问。
接下来的两个小时，我们开车穿过了整个城市。她指给我看当年她作电梯操作员的那座大厦，她和她的新婚丈夫当年生活过的小区，她让我在一家家具商店前面停车，那儿以前是个舞厅，她还是个小姑娘时常去那儿跳舞。
有时经过一个特殊的大楼或角落时她会让我放慢车速，她会坐在那里瞪着夜空，默默无言。
当第一缕阳光打破了地平线，她突然说：“我累了，咱们现在就走吧。”
我们默默地驱车向她给我的那个地址驶去。
那是一座低矮的楼房，就像一个小疗养院，在门廊的下面有一条车道。我们刚停车，就有两个护理员出来向我们走来。她们关切而热心地注视着她的举动，看样子一定是在等着她的到来。
我打开车尾的行李箱，把她的手提箱提到门口。老妇人已经坐进轮椅里。
“我该给你多少钱？”她边说边把手伸进钱包。
“不用了，”我说。
“你得谋生呢，”她说。 http://www.haibao.cn/article/22525.htm
“还有其他的乘客，”我回答。
几乎想也没想，我弯下腰来给了她一个拥抱。她也紧紧地抱着我。
“你给了一个老妇人片刻的欢乐，”她说，“谢谢你。”
我轻轻地握了握她的手，便走进了微弱的晨光中。门在我身后关上了。这也是生命关闭的声音。
那晚我没有拉其他的乘客。我漫无方向地开着车，陷入沉思中。那天其余的时间，我几乎说不出话。
如果那位老妇人碰到一位狂暴的司机，或者急着结束晚班的司机，那会怎么样呢？如果我拒绝跑这趟车，或者只是按一声喇叭，便开车离开，那又会怎么样呢？
匆忙回顾了一下，我认为我做了一件生命中再重要不过的事情。
我们习惯性地认为我们的生命中有一些重大的时刻，然而重大的时刻往往在不经意时降临到我们身上--也许在别人眼中是小事，但它有着美丽的包装。人们可能不会完全记住你所做的事，或者你所说的话……但他们却会永远记住你带给他们的感觉。
花上片刻的时间，静静地欣赏一下你的回忆，那些为周围的人创造了机会的回忆，那些使他人今天仍然感觉特别的回忆。 http://pic.yesky.com/

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whoever loved that loved not at the first sight — Wed, 24 Sep 2008 15:06:06 +0800

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whoever loved that loved not at the first sight — Thu, 4 Sep 2008 17:18:16 +0800

入门品酒者如何开始

whoever loved that loved not at the first sight — Fri, 22 Aug 2008 15:30:39 +0800

“如果你是一个入门级的品酒者，建议你去品尝以澳大利亚、美国、智利为代表的'新世界'红酒，因为这些酒里的葡萄种类比较单一，而法国酒太过复杂，初级品酒者不宜从法国酒入手”。

　　红酒文化需要积累

眯起眼睛看着杯中那红宝石一样的液体轻轻荡漾，这是红酒，带着微微的果香，有点迷人。从舌尖轻轻抿一口，让它缓缓地流过味蕾，感觉那浓郁的醇香和丰富的层次，一点点草莓味，若有若无的苔藓夹杂着林中鲜蘑菇的味道……上等的葡萄酒就像极为完美和谐的交响乐一样，其中每个音符、每个音调的精妙神韵都清晰可辨……这是爱酒者的享受，不过在北京，真正懂得红酒的人并不多，“很多人来买酒，是看着哪个包装好看买哪个，不过正是因为人们的品位还有很大的提升空间，很多红酒庄园主会主动来找我们，办一场品酒会，传授红酒知识的同时也能宣传红酒的品牌，多培养一些未来的爱酒者。”恒基燕莎红酒屋的红酒师说，北京的红酒文化，需要慢慢地积累。

坚持“不品尝不买”原则

在选购葡萄酒时，很多爱好者坚持“不品尝不买”的原则。于是在酒庄开放日，在葡萄酒博览会上，经常可见人们悠闲地手拿酒杯，与亲朋好友一起品尝、选购自己称心如意的葡萄酒，寻找生活的乐趣。对于中国的葡萄酒爱好者而言，他们不具备总是亲自品尝、选购的条件，渐渐热闹起来的品酒会终于提供了这样的机会。恒基燕莎品酒会主办方介绍，波尔多产区拥有金玫瑰城堡(头等苑二级)、铁堡金盾城堡(头等苑三级)和奥巴里奇古堡(头等苑五级)等酒庄。

这次的品酒会将会邀请各古堡的庄园主或代表一同出席参与到活动中，为品酒者介绍庄园特色、讲解波尔多文化。品酒师介绍，头等苑是法国红酒的最高级别，目前在法国也只有5个庄园得到这个称号。头等苑级别的珍藏当然要留给平日里熟悉的客户，但如果你是一个真正的爱酒之人，可以打电话给红酒屋，一场品尝驰名的吉娜斯至尊波尔多、金玫瑰城堡等葡萄酒的晚会会让你触及高雅和品位。

品酒前的准备

出发前最好能吃一点东西。这类品酒会一般都没有太丰富的食品，通常只是准备一些面包、饼干、奶酪及各式小点心。没有人想在品酒会上因为饿而表现得狼吞虎咽。但空腹喝一点葡萄酒后确实会强烈地刺激起想吃东西的欲望，这种效果与开胃酒有异曲同工之处。另一方面，过于饥饿的感觉会钝化对美酒的欣赏，而且酒精在空腹中吸收较快，将使您过早地感到不胜酒力。

无论出发前是否吃过东西，在品酒前两小时内应刷牙，随后不再吃任何辛辣的食物、巧克力、薄荷糖或抽烟等。因为口腔中留存的味道会影响对葡萄酒的欣赏与判断。一些食品及调料，如大蒜，即使吃后刷牙仍然会弥漫出强烈的味道，所以，生的葱、姜、蒜等最好在品酒或赴宴的前一餐就注意避免食用。

许多人喜欢喷洒香水，参加社交活动时更是如此，但品酒活动时应该例外。品酒过程中需要仔细分辨和感受葡萄酒散发出的各种花香与果香味，香水的遮盖作用相当明显，没准哪位绅士所感受到的葡萄酒中玫瑰花般的芬芳，实际上恰恰来自于他身边的某位女士。因此，参加品酒时最好不要使用香水，至少不要用气味浓烈的香水。与此类似，品酒前应尽可能不使用各种浓香气味的护肤品、美发品或气味遮盖剂。

品酒的理想室温是 20℃～22℃，多数品酒场合的温度都在相差不多的范围内。无论是何种级别的品酒活动，参加者都应该提前准备，以期提早到达品酒地点。没有人能在气喘吁吁、大汗淋漓地匆忙赶到之后，马上进入气定神宜的欣赏状态，其对优雅从容的品酒气氛也是一种明显的打扰。

夏日潮人的

whoever loved that loved not at the first sight — Fri, 22 Aug 2008 15:13:55 +0800

1. Emporio Armani 卡其+黑色

这是你穿好这个颜色的第一步，这种搭配能让你看上去更有男人味，且比起黑白搭配让人感到更轻松。

2. Louis Vuitton 卡其+顺色

男人穿卡其色西装更适合穿套装，在夏天即使你穿得很正式，却不会给人很闷的感觉。而衬衫的颜色尽量鲜明些。

3. Bottega Veneta 卡其+叠搭

卡其色针织衫是略显普通的款式，如果想穿好，最好选择顺色叠搭的方式，层次感可以弥补款式的不足。

4.Dunhill 卡其+艳色

也许你希望你的夏天多些颜色，那么你应该选择卡其色的短裤而不是上衣，这样会让整体看上去更协调。

5.D&G 卡其+白色

这是今年很时髦的装束，卡其色西装或者衬衫配白色裤子，但唯一的问题是你需要在上身找个浅色的配件和你的裤子呼应。

6.Burberry 卡其+反光质感

在科技面料盛行的今天，反光质感的卡其色一改人们印象中的灰头土脸，与其他反光质感的服装或者配件搭配成为了最时髦的Look。

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whoever loved that loved not at the first sight — Thu, 21 Aug 2008 12:36:07 +0800

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whoever loved that loved not at the first sight — Tue, 19 Aug 2008 15:43:00 +0800

1、真是稀客。You are really a rare visitor.

2、你说的头头是道。What you said sounded reasonable.

3、我真是反应迟钝。I am really slow-minded.

4、你把我给搞糊涂了。You made me confused.

5、罪有应得。You deserved it.

6、已经无法挽救了。There is no way out.

7、别跟自己过不去。Don't give yourself too much pressure.

8、你有话直说吧。Just say it.

9、这可不是三言两语的事。It's not easy to explain in several words.

10、天塌下来有我呢。Nothing serious. It’s up to me.

美国人挂在嘴边的20个地道口语小词：破财免灾
1、车到山前必有路。You will find a way.

2、破财免灾嘛。Lose money just to avoid misfortune.

3、成事不足，败事有余。Never make, but always break.

4、别在这挖苦我了。Don't make jokes about me.

5、英雄所见略同。Great minds think alike.

6、让你破费了。Thank you for inviting me.

7、有点不怎么对劲儿。There's something wrong here.

8、太阳从西边出来了。It never happens to you.

9、恭敬不如从命。I had better follow your advice.

10、你可别小看我。Don't look down upon on me.

How to Get Along with Your Supervisor

whoever loved that loved not at the first sight — Tue, 19 Aug 2008 15:38:18 +0800

1 Show respect. Your boss is responsible for your work and the work of your colleagues. That can be a significant burden. Try to understand the business from your boss's perspective. 尊重上司，站在他的角度去理解问题。
2 Don't be afraid of your boss. Some supervisors can be intimidating, but remember, your boss needs you. Your performance is often key to the success of your boss. 不要惧怕你的领导。即使他很强势，他还是希望你为他分忧。
3 Don't try to hide problems. First, try to solve the problem. If you can't and the problem becomes serious, let your supervisor know as soon as possible. 碰到你无法解决的事情要及时向上司汇报，不要让其他人把你的问题汇报给上司。
4 Give honest feedback. Of course, temper your honesty with diplomacy. Choose your words wisely and use a gentle tone. Both should promote and contribute to an environment of mutual respect. 对上司讲真话。当然，你要小心措辞。
5 Maintain your boundaries. Getting too cozy too soon may lead to trouble. Not to mention that many bosses like to keep a professional veil between themselves and their employees.和上司过快地表现得很亲近可能会有麻烦，所以还是保持一定的距离比较好。
6 Manage your anger. This doesn't mean you have to sit and stew when you're angry. But learn how to communicate your anger appropriately. 在上司面前发火只会说明你缺乏自控能力。你要学会合理地化解郁气。
7 Learn to translate boss language. "If it's not too much trouble" means "Do it, and the sooner the better". 你要学会“翻译”上司的话语，当上司说“如果这不是太麻烦的话”，他的实际意思是“做吧，尽快去做”。
8 Embrace your strengths and face your shortcomings. Recognize your own talents and nurture them. Ask your supervisor for advice to help you grow in areas where you're weak. Take his or her advice and make an honest effort to improve. 发扬优点，改正缺点。

全民情敌

whoever loved that loved not at the first sight — Tue, 19 Aug 2008 15:35:39 +0800

“无论何时、何地、何人，任何男人都有机会亲近他喜欢的女人，他只是需要恰到好处的点拨。”这是绰号“套中套”的亚历克斯·希切斯的名言。亚历克斯(威尔·史密斯饰)是一位传奇的匿名“约会医生”，帮助过不计其数的男士向他们的梦中情人求爱，当然了所有获得帮助的人也得满足他的荷包。他清楚了解人们在求爱过程中的普遍错误，并为他们提供“邂逅、共舞、亲吻”等的建议和训练。

现在，亚历克斯有了一个新客户。温顺的肥佬会计艾伯特(凯文·詹姆斯饰)爱上了显赫的美女奥丽格拉(安贝尔·瓦莱塔饰)，约会医生亚历克斯倾尽所能帮助他克服所有障碍，“化腐朽为神奇”去赢得美人的注意。但这只是容易的部分，关键是教会这个缺乏自信的愚人挺起胸膛，如何在约会上给奥丽格拉留下深刻的印象。

尽管亚历克斯帮助许多男士抱得美人归，但是他本人的爱情却一直空缺，所有的经验都来自平时的观察。他也曾经深深地爱过一个女人，但情场重伤的经历让他紧闭心扉。就在教授艾伯特的时候，亚历克斯邂逅了曼妙睿智的莎拉(伊娃·曼德斯饰)，而这位八卦专栏作者也正在跟踪奥丽格拉的一举一动。

现在，水平最高的专业王老五突然发现自己爱上了莎拉，可大记者正准备用最大的独家新闻，揭开传奇约会医生的假面具……

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Also Known As:	Hitch: Der Date Doktor (Germany) The Last First Kiss

Production Status:	Released

Genres:	Comedy and Romance

Running Time:	1 hr. 53 min.

Release Date:	February 11, 2005 (wide)

MPAA Rating:	PG-13 for language and some strong sexual references.

Distributors:	Sony Pictures Releasing International (SPRI), Sony Pictures Releasing

Production Co.:	Overbrook Entertainment, Film Buff Productions

Studios:	Columbia TriStar Motion Picture Group

U.S. Box Office:	$177,575,142

Filming Locations:	New York, NY, USA

Produced in:	United States